Thanksgiving is around the corner, heralding in the holiday season of cheer.  But what if you’re having a hard time feeling grateful?  What if life’s been tough?  How do you celebrate Thanksgiving and the winter holidays when your heart’s filled with loss, sorrow or worry?  I was asked these questions and many more during numerous recent interviews this week and last on radio stations around the country.  These issues resonate with people regardless of geography.  These are issues of inner geography—relating to the map of our hearts and souls.  

   I invite you this week to listen to one (or more) of these radio interviews, recorded for your convenience.  They are filled with insights that can help you navigate this sometimes internally dark time of year.  Just click on the link below, choose the podcast that most appeals to you, sit back, and percolate with ideas of how you too can find gratitude even in the midst of difficulties.

   http://www.counseling4thesoul.com/about-cheryl.html

   Please share your thoughts and reactions to the podcast(s) in the comments below.

   In the interim, I wish you a Thanksgiving filled with meaning and authenticity.  

   As a guest speaker on three radio shows this week I was acutely reminded of the power of the spoken word.  The sweeping reach that a voice can have through a medium like radio—or books—is profound.  Yet equally as profound is the power of the spoken word in a one-to-one conversation.  I remember words people said to me years ago.  The kind words continue to give me encouragement.  The mean words can continue to hurt, if I let them.  You know how brutal criticism and put-downs can be.  And you know how uplifting kind words can be.  Taking this awareness to heart, I strive in my work and life to put people “up.”  I’m not always successful but I consciously do my best.

   How can you and I best use the power of the spoken word in our daily lives?  
Here are two simple keys:  

• Thinking before we speak is one.  
  
• Realizing and remembering the power of the spoken word is the other.  

Because once it’s out, what we say can’t be retracted.  We can try to correct it, but the effect has already been released and it’s as hard to control as a genie that’s escaped from its bottle.

   Words can have magical powers.  Here’s why.  The words we speak can become prophecies. Studies have shown that teachers who encourage and believe in their students form students who are more likely to surmount difficulties and ace their studies.  Coaches who inspire their players form teams that win in more ways than one.  Parents who give their kids words of support help to form children who grow to become more confident and positive.  Couples who tell their partners every day how much they love them have better relationships.  Friends who inspire their friends with caring words  foster loyal friendships.  And bosses who give positive and helpful feedback develop faithful, hardworking employees. 

   What words have been most meaningful to you in your life?  What are the kinds of words you want to offer to those around you?  Please share your comments below.

   “Today is a good day to die.” These words are attributed to Crazy Horse, the Sioux leader.  Its meaning is akin to “carpe diem,” seize the day.  When we live with that spirit—that every moment counts, it can push us to constantly be on the go.  There’s so much we want to accomplish and achieve.  And especially as the autumn daylight grows shorter, it reminds us that time is of the essence.  We’re driven to take action while there’s still light.  There can be a discomfort, a sense of pressure, a race against time.  Yet the fewer hours of daylight can be an invitation to slow down.  The impending darkness can beckon us to travel inward.